Buried alive

I went from no projects to feeling buried alive in an avalanche of fabric and ideas. How does this stuff happen to me? It’s that feeling that I have nothing but time, and then my brain goes into overdrive and finally explodes.

After talking to my daughter, I decided that I want to go nob, just not anywhere of course, but to California. I couldn’t afford it last year, airfares were twice what they were the year before. Plus we spent the money on fixing he car instead. So it’s my intention to go in November, because I can see my kids and go to Dickens Fair too. Since I sold my costume, I will need to make a new one. I also have some fabric left from girls’ skirts so I can make them blouses and I would like to make them some cute pantaloons too. It’s a bit early to start on costumes but my brain is already thinking about them. Whirring and whirring, but I already have summer clothes to sew, a purse that I want to make and some other things. How come I feel busier now than when I worked full time?

I think I need to have a schedule. It’s the lack of a schedule that seems to be my undoing. I wonder if that happens to other retired expats? Do we have so many choices that we get overwhelmed and end up choosing inactivity? Not that I have unlimited choices, I don’t have an endless supply of money, but most of the things that I do are relatively inexpensive, I blog, I sew, I cook, I do various crafts and art projects most of which really don’t require money so much as time. My time needs budgeting. My daughter was wrong, I don’t have all the time in the world.

About Theresa

Born in New York City, I grew up in California, and have lived in 3 countries and 6 states. I'm a first generation Cuban-American who lives in Merida, Yucatan, Mexico. I'm committed to living an abundant and creative life and helping others do so too through DIY!


  1. Islagringo, you are so right! That is why I am going to establish a schedule for myself, ummm, manaña.
    AMM, it is so easy for me to get involved in a project and not remember to come up for air. It’s a left over from when I worked full time and was a single mom. I never knew if I would be able to get back to something or not. Balance, that is exactly what I need.
    Billie, I used to kid that my middle name was “someone has to do it”! I now only do it if I really want to. I enjoy being on committees and doing a project but I don’t want that to be my life anymore.

  2. I am very careful about getting involved in other people’s projects. It is so easy to get caught up in them until you have no time left for yourself. I spent my previous life doing that and I’m not going to do it again.

  3. Balance. Always hovering at whatever stage of life.

  4. I can so identify with this problem. So much to do; nothing to do. So much time; not enough time. But in the end, it is nice that we can do as much or as little as we like. It is our time afterall!

  5. Steve, I almost called this post “the retiree’s dilemma”, I am reading “The Omnivore’s Dilemma” and that is the point. When you have so much to chose from, sometimes it’s hard to chose. But, you can re-invent yourself. I don’t volunteer for projects unless they have a set beginning and end. Some of my friends are very busy indeed,but we mostly stay home. To quote BurgerKing “The choice is yours”

  6. Theresa — Your post was both encouraging and discouraging to this soon-to-be retiree. Encouraging because you reiterate what we have discussed before. There is a lot to do in retirement. It was discouraging because one reason I am retiring is to get away from the avalanche of busy-ness. Then I remind myself, I am taking my same life and experiences south. Moving to Mexico is not a pancea; I still have to deal with life as it is.

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