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Duke update 2 or is it 3?

Duke’s been in the hospital now for about 5 weeks.

Right now he is battling a throat infection. The original double pneumonia is gone. The hospital pneumonia that he picked up to take it’s place has also been vanquished. The other infections seem to be gone too.

Yesterday and last night, he was producing an unimaginable amount of phlegm. Today it seems to be less.

This morning, I woke up thinking, “I want to talk to Duke about that,” and then realized that I couldn’t. I started to cry and cry. One of my dear friends accepted my phone call, and we talked and talked until I felt under control again.

However, this has made me realize that I can’t continue to spend as much time at the hospital as I have been doing. My Spanish speaking friends, both new and old, have been relieving me so I can spend a few hours at home, but I think that what I need to do is start sleeping at home. I’m getting run down and worn. It’s been a very difficult thing for me to decide, but it won’t help him when he finally gets home, to have me be sick.

Thank you all for your help, your good wishes, and for your prayers. I am ever so grateful for all my friends.

About Theresa Diaz Gray

Born in New York City, I grew up in California, and have lived in 3 countries and 6 states. I'm a first generation Cuban-American who lives in Merida, Yucatan, Mexico. I'm committed to living an abundant and creative life and helping others do so too through DIY!


  1. Theresa, I doubt anyone could have expected he’d still be in the hospital after five weeks, especially Duke himself. I’m sure he doesn’t want you worn out and will be happy to know that you are getting some decent sleep.

    It’s so hard to only see things from a distance, I so wish I was there and could be of some use. Take care.

  2. You’re making the right decision by putting on your own oxygen mask on first.

    • I like that phrase, you aren’t the first one to tell me that. It was nice last night to sleep in our bed, when I woke up in the middle of the night there were no beeping machines, no alarms going off, and no other strange noises.


  3. theresa,

    i’m very relieved to hear that the double pneumonia is gone. i didn’t realize he’d picked up another pneumonia at the hospital-glad to hear that is also over. God willing his throat infection will start to clear up soon.

    you are right-you absolutely need to take care of yourself. i’m very hard on myself and my husband always says, “be good to terry.” now i am saying it to you, “be good to theresa!”

    God bless,


    • Hard to accept that I am not superwoman, but it’s true I need a rest. The last couple of days I would wake up crying, not for any particular reason, just tired and sad.

      This morning I feel pretty good, drinking coffee out of my own mug instead of an OXXO paper cup and eating eggs instead of string cheese.

      I will be nicer to Theresa, if I can be nice to others I should be nice to myself. You and your husband are wise.


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