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Moving out of my comfort zone

“You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching,
Love like you’ll never be hurt,
Sing like there’s nobody listening,
And live like it’s heaven on earth.”

― William W. Purkey

I’m the only latina ever born without rhythm. I’ll be dancing and all of sudden get confused as to what the beat is. That doesn’t stop me from dancing, though I try not to sing if the person next to me has perfect pitch, I’m not that cruel.

My friend, Martine, loves to dance. We go dancing together almost every Tuesday night at Santiago square. It’s free, the band plays mostly cha-cha type stuff. I do pretty well until the keyboard player starts to improvise, then sometimes I just stand there and wait. This guy once complemented Martine on her dancing, and then turned to me and asked,”Is she teaching you?” I laughed, and replied,”I’m pretty much unteachable.”

Martine asked me if I wanted to participate in a flash mob that the Alianza  Francesa was having for International African day, April 28th. Except, of course, this being Merida, it was going to be on another day. Saturday, May 21, for Noche Blanca. To her amazement, I agreed to try.

We practiced at her house, we went to a practice at the Alianza Francesa, we practiced again. I figured I would just stand behind someone good, and do my best.

Saturday night, we arrived at the appointed place fifteen minutes early. Martine spotted the organizer over inside the square, they spoke together in rapid French. The Police band was playing until 7:30 so we were going to have to wait. Also the location had been changed to around the flagpole in the center of the main square. No problem, it’s Mexico, you have to learn to be flexible. Besides, it was really warm, maybe the temperature would go down a little more.

The police band plays pretty good dance music, they have lots of brass, which I like. Martine calls it happy music, so to kill time, we danced. Then at 7:30 we noticed the space getting crowded, more people dancing. The band took this as a tribute, and played an encore, then another, and another, finally quitting for good at 8:00.

So in the spirit of where’s Waldo? Can you spot me among the dancers? Hint, my hair is blonde now. My friend, Martine has on a red blouse and is also blonde, but her’s is natural.

About Theresa Diaz Gray

Born in New York City, I grew up in California, and have lived in 3 countries and 6 states. I'm a first generation Cuban-American who lives in Merida, Yucatan, Mexico. I'm committed to living an abundant and creative life and helping others do so too through DIY!


  1. teresa freeburn

    p.s. in my last sentence, i meant to say theresa-not there.

    • No problem, Teresa,

      I hate it when that happens, just as I push post I see a mistake. Since I have have approve all comments (too much spam) you can just ask me to edit it before I approve it (or even afterwards)


  2. I love this! I always say it’s a matter of being game. Gotta be. There are no other rules. You rock!

    • You are so right Barbara,
      when the universe offers up opportunities we need to take them. It’s like improve, you always say yes, because no just shuts down the possibilities. Martine wants me to take Salsa classes but I think I am going to learn to Belly Dance, you don’t need a partner to belly dance.


  3. teresa freeburn

    found you-i think! were you wearing a black skirt and white t with black writing or design? you did great and looked like you were having a lot of fun! hope i can find a venue for weekly dancing in zihuat next winter-i love to dance.

    glad to see that you are going out and enjoying yourself!

    tonight i will have dinner with my paraguayan and mexican friends. both are great cooks. maybe i can get them to dance a little.

    have a good weekend there.

    teresa in nagoya

    • That’s who I surmised had to have been DIY Theresa!

      • Yup, rediscovering who I am as a single person is a real DIY project.

        The girl who was in front of me is an incredible dancer, it was fun to watch her dance and try to copy her moves.


    • Teresa,
      soon you will have to sign off as teresa who used to be in nagoya! Yup, that is me. My tank top has gold elephants on it, it’s a tan color but looks much lighter in the video.

      • teresa freeburn

        yup-just 5 more weeks and i’ll be back to “teresa in lake stevens (who used to be in nagoya ;-)”

        wish i could add to that quote, “eat as if you weren’t always trying to lose weight and avoiding diabetes.” had some japanese friends over for coffee and dessert this morning-i am still full.

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