* Promote truth , a homework assignment from the first Latin American Bloggers’ Conference, I originally wrote this on April 25, 2008.
No, Mr. Dog didn’t eat my homework,
even after I put butter on it . Here is my assignment:
You already know the basics:
- Don’t fill up on bread
- Wear sunscreen
- If you’re putting an air freshener in the bathroom, don’t chose one that smells like food.
You’re a font of wisdom, and you’re getting sharper every year. Outline ten truths you believe to be universal. You can tell us how you came to your conclusions, or explain how your beliefs have changed over the years. If you are feeling ambitious, check back on this list in a few years to see if you still agree with yourself.
- Never second guess yourself. Sometimes second guessing works, but usually you are right the first time. Unless it’s spelling, if the word looks funny, you probably either didn’t spell it correctly or you used a homonym (a word that sounds the same but is spelled differently and has a different meaning to boot!). Actually, that probably isn’t second guessing is it? For example, I know that after I have posted this, I will think of 10 even more brilliant things to have written.
- Always proofread, if possible have someone else proofread. I am assuming that you spent a long time learning to read and write, so a few more moments checking things out won’t hurt. Spell check only checks for spelling errors, not usage or just plain making sense. Spell check doesn’t care if I write tan for ton or hear for here, but your reader might.
- No matter how miserable and unhappy you are, there is always someone else in worst shape. It may sound trivial but sometimes it helps to know that it could have been much,much worse.
- This too, shall pass.Change is constant. Even the good times will end, but so will the bad times. Personally, I think if every day was the same, it would be very boring.
- Happiness is a choice. I worked with a woman whose husband was an alcoholic, her junkie son was in jail and her house was in foreclosure. She was happy, because she said that no one could take that from her. She wasn’t giddy or insanely happy, she was just happy, the worst possible stuff had happened and she was still alive. The lyrics of Me and Bobby McGee were her motto ” Freedom’s just another word for nothing left to lose…. Hey feeling good was good enough for me”
- Money is not the root of all evil. Sorry, but money is not inherently evil. You can be happy without it, but poverty is not a virtue. You need to have enough money to pay your bills and not worry. Everyone has their own comfort levels. Once upon a time, a cushion of hundred bucks in my savings account was enough,then it became a thousand dollars. Living hand to mouth is not really fun, it only makes for good stories after you are secure.
- Bad stuff happens, it’s in your best interest to get over it. Learn the lessons that you need to learn and move on. The only real mistake is making the same mistakes over and over again. There are so many new mistakes to make, why keep on repeating the same old ones?
- Being smarter or more talented means that you are different. Being different is not always comfortable, but it is better than being boring.
- Mark Twain said “It’s better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt“. I have also heard that you have two ears and one mouth so use them accordingly. This is easier said than done. Sometimes people don’t really want your advice, they just want you to listen. I always want to fix things for other people, but that isn’t necessarily the right thing to do.
- No one likes a know it all, even if you are right.Cite your sources. It’s easier to pass on advice if you preface it with something like “I read in Sunset Magazine” or “Mark Twain said” rather than stating something like it’s a fact carved in stone. Also just because someone is an expert in one field it doesn’t necessarily spill over into another. Speaking of experts the difference between a professional and a hobbyist is the the pro gets paid. Husband told me that most astronomical discoveries are made by amateurs rather than the professional astronomers because the amateurs don’t have to answer to anyone.
I also have some other truths but I really am not into conflict so I am not delving into my religious or political beliefs. Besides, I am not sure if there is a true religion or a correct political belief. It’s just what is true for you at the moment with the information you have at hand.
Five years later, I still agree with this stuff. How about you? Does any of this ring true to you?